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[quote=Anonymous]If your father doesn't agree, you may need to contact her doctor directly.  I'd consider that you and your sister BOTH contact the doctor's office with concerns--and possibly the DMV as well.

In the mean time, I think you might have to bring it up over the beach weekend.  The grandchildren need to know that they are not allowed in the car if Grandma is driving, and they need to see that none of the adults will ride with Grandma either.

You might have to actually say something at the beginning of the trip like, "Mom, we're not comfortable riding in a car with you driving. None of us, including the grandchildren, will be doing so. We recognize that you're an adult, and we hope you'll make the choice to stop driving before someone else has to make it for you."  And then drop it (for now).  If your mom fusses and fumes or cries, simply tell her that the decision is final.  Your actions will speak loudly--and you can't at the moment control whether she drives, but you can control your presence in the car with her.[/quote]

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