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[quote=Anonymous]How my husband treats his mom is an example I can look at for how he does and will treat me.

Assuming we had the money, and the recipient wasn't using it to buy drugs or something harmful (I don't expect my husband to expect my mom to be financially impeccable and I don't expect his mom to be financially impeccable. But I do expect them to be _responsible_ when they're receiving financial assistance from us.) I'm fine with it.

If I had concerns, I'd sit down with my husband and our budget, and we'd talk it through. I'd let go of "but but I WANT that money" while I listened to his reasons. I might negotiate. E.g. "Your mom is financially secure with the amount we're giving her currently, but I hear that you want her to be able to splurge, and that you feel she's living a bit too tightly. I'm uncomfortable increasing the payment more than $50/mos. What if we did that, but also set aside $100/mos and gave her a birthday bonus every year?" There might be other ways to meet everyone's needs with some creative thinking.[/quote]

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