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[quote=Anonymous]Talking to him isn't going to work.  Its a form of negative attention and it just reenforces the behavior.  PLus he's a little young, even without the HFA, to rationalize his behavior.  What you need is behavior modification, a very structured form of rewards and punishments that are made clear to him in advance and then you stick to them.  Someone might come along with a professional suggestion.  You target one behavior at a time, say trying to hurt his sister.  You sit him down and tell him that if he tries to hurt her he will not get any warnings and you won;t talk about it, he'll just get an immediate time out.  But if he goes a week without trying to hurt her he will earn a privilege (or minor reward).

One thing that worked with our son with AS was we kept a notebook where he would get a certain number of points for doing a certain number of things right every day with a prize when he reached a certain level.  He liked checking the notebook and following his progress.

The other thing you need to do is reevaluate the professionals in his life.  Do you have a developmental pediatrician?  Is he helping with this?  When the teachers complain you need to have someone working with them to come up with a plan.

Finally, you sound depressed.  Make sure you take care of yourself.  It sounds like you could use a therapist for yourself.

Things can get better if you bring in whatever help you need to change things.  What you are doing right now isn't working.  OK, you know that, so you try something different.[/quote]

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