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[quote=Anonymous]Plenty of people do this. 
Can you talk to a more progressive rabbi to help you come to a decision that isn't based on the crazies here?

For us, i was always going to do it simply because we are Jewish. I let my husband be the final decider because he had the procedure as an adult and always felt like he was 'out of place' as an observant Jew (leads services, kosher, etc) until he had it done. That was how we decided - I personally don't think there is a wrong or right way.

However, I wanted to have a Brit shalom later to invite family and friends (overwhelmingly out of towners and I am not inviting people to the bris) and have the cantor who married us give him his Hebrew name, but she basically said you get your Hebrew name at the Bris (if you have one). That's how it works. So there went that!

You could also plan a pidyon haben as a way to celebrate the birth of your first son if you want to avoid the bris. But, there are (in theory) rules about birth of a first son - c sections don't count, etc. I am just ignoring that if I end up having a C because we are one and done, so this is it. It's a good chance to welcome a boy into the community with friends and family around, but avoiding a bris.  I think if you explain to your family that you intend to do this, they might be more receptive to your final decision - you arent skipping all traditions (but it will depend on how religious they are) and are still raising a Jewish child.

Good luck on your decision!  I know parents who have decided both ways, all are still good parents with happy babies! [/quote]

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