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[quote=Anonymous]23:57, thank you.  I appreciate your time in laying all that out - I need to re-read and digest everything but there are definitely aspects of this that I have not thought about previously.

Part of the issue is that Jenny's problems stem from both deep-rooted emotional problems (okay, yeah, they're real) and serious, long-term, enabled-by-my-parents drug use (which I hold her accountable for, frankly - "I love heroin" is not a disability in my book).  She is fully capable of holding down a (PT anyway) job and has done so many times in the past (actually has done it WHILE receiving SSDI...).  These issues have played out since childhood and frankly I can't think of a single family member who isn't frightened of/disgusted by her and her actions at this point.  Maybe I should add that she is a convicted felon.
Case in point:  You know how, at Christmas or a family bbq, all the ladies will generally find a corner to stash their purses etc in?  In our family those purses are often kept right on the shoulder through the whole plarty - b/c Jenny will rifle through purses and break into cars to steal money for drugs.  She has exhibited violent behavior toward my parents (along with many threats) whenever she doesn't get her way.  I locked my bedroom door at night, during HS, in order to feel safe enough to fall asleep.  Nobody's going to volunteer for this, and my parents are completely aware that I am not taking over her care.  However, I think they are just sticking their heads in the sand on this (ie, THEY won't be around to deal with it, so it's not their problem?)

They (parents + Jenny) currently live in a 55+ community.  Don't know what happens when parents die/move to nursing home (gah another situation I can barely stand to contemplate).

Re: PP suggestion for therapy - yeah, I need it badly.  DH has requested it but I just have a hard time initiating it (lots of bad memories surrounding "family counseling sessions" ergh).[/quote]

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