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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Thanks. On birthdays, is it ok for me to only send gifts to the kids whose birthday it is?[/quote]

Whaaaaaaaat?  Why would you send anything to the other kids? [/quote]

Op here. Because in one of the families one time when I gave presents to just the birthday boy, his older sibling (6) got really upset and accused me of not giving her a present for her birthday (which was not true, I had given her one, but it was a few weeks late since I brought it in person). Her parents seem to think that you should give a big gift to the birthday boy and small ones to the other kids to stave off jealousy.[/quote]

I'm sorry, but these kids sound incredibly spoiled.  First of all, the parents should have reprimanded the kid for even saying anything to you.  Gifts are gifts -- not expectations, not dues, not requirements.  A child needs to be taught that.

I would scale back dramatically with the gifts.  It's not that you should expect anything in return.  It's that it's obvious these kids are spoiled, and you need to stop contributing to that.

And if you send a birthday gift, just send it to the birthday kid.  If other kids complain when you see them, then you explain, "well, when it is your birthday, you will get a gift."  And leave it at that.  If the parents have an issue with that, then, personally, I would stop giving birthday gifts.  [/quote]

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