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[quote=Anonymous]Hey... just noticed this subforum.  I was wondering where all the MIL rants were, lol.

Anyone ever issue their parents an ultimatum?  Along the lines of "We love you, and don't WANT to do this.  But if you continue with {this emotionally and financially destructive behavior} we are simply DONE."

Behavior is related to continued financial and emotional support of someone who will just tear their hearts out (again).  Like a deadbeat uncle, who could work, but doesn't, and instead lives with them, eats their food, gets on their cell plan, and mooches money to buy drugs.  And then lands in jail.  Rinse, repeat.  A deadbeat uncle who terrorized me as a child (seriously, emotional scarring, not kidding) to the point where my children are not allowed in his presence.

They have recently said, "That's it, we're done, no more" however they have said this in the past.  I know that cutting him loose will cause a great deal of emotional pain and guilt for them, however, it is seriously affecting their relationships with every single other person on the planet, bc everyone is terrified of this guy.

DH and I are 100% on the same page, except I think they need a sit-down, come-to-Jesus talk.  He - oddly - is willing to let it go without an explicit ultimatum.  I feel like the ultimatum is 1, reminding them that this guy is interfering with OUR relationship, and 2, giving them fair warning.

WWYD?[/quote]

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