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[quote=Anonymous]I have a grown sibling who is completely unable to care for themself due to a "mental health disability" aka serious and repeat drug addictions.  This sib (we'll say Jenny) currently lives with our parents and mooches every single thing.  Jenny's SSI check (disability) is basically spent on drugs, I think.  Parents bemoan the situation but refuse to actually man up and change it.  Due to lifelong issues/histories, which I am not going into here, I am not willing to provide financial or emotional support for Jenny once our parents are no longer able, and maintain absolute minimal contact now (ie, she is not allowed in my home).
Parents have stated that there is a will with a "trust" for Jenny.  The caretaker or whatever, of the trust is NOT ME, it's another family member.  I specifically requested that provision.

My questions for the group:
- Would you want to see the actual paperwork?  I haven't, and haven't asked, but have no issue demanding a copy.  I may decide to have my own attorney review it.  Any thoughts?
- Parents have recently stated that the trust is not going to be enough for Jenny to live off (as sole source of income).  Oh dear.  She ain't coming to live with me and I wouldn't trust her with $0.50. 
- What am I missing/forgetting here?  Related to the parents, or specifically the sib situation.  I just hate feeling unprepared.

This whole "parents getting older" thing is still weird to me, and for all intents and purposes it's like being an only (gotta deal with it all, nobody to help) only worse (also have to deal with sib).[/quote]

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