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[quote=Anonymous]SIL moved into my home one year ago.... a direct result of crappy decisions that led to her needing a place to stay.  We don't mind having her stay... she and her children are actually great to have around, for the most part.

BUT:  During the school year, both her DC and my DC's take their lunches to school every day.  I, being more organized that her, preferred to pack my DC's lunches the night before.  She is more of a wait-til-the-last-minute type, throwing together whatever she could find as her DC is headed out the door or every now and then, she'd do it at night.  In an attempt to help, I started packing her DC's lunch at night while I did my DC's lunches.  Problem is:  she took advantage.  She stopped making her DC's lunches all together, assuming I had it covered.

To be fair, I have to say that there were times when she would pack my DC's lunches... probably 10% of the time.  But I got so tired of doing it the majority of the time that I just stopped packing them at night altogether, then we'd both be rushing in the morning, packing lunches.  It was kind of ridiculous, but this was the only way I could pack my own kid's lunches and not have to pack HER DC's lunches.

So, my situation  is this.  I don't want her to pack my kid's lunches.  I don't want to pack her DC's lunches.  Mine have pretty specific preferences and diets,  and I just don't want her to do it.      I'm making a genuine effort to stop using so much disposable plastic... that's the furthest thing from her mind.  And I really try to keep it healthy (for the most part)... she likes to put cookies and candy in her DC's lunch.  Plus, sometimes I just don't feel like doing another lunch.  YEs, that might sound crappy, but she's just as able as I am to do it.  So, why shouldn't she?

THE QUESTION:  How do I tell her that I don't want us to pack lunches for each other's kids?  I don't want it to sound like she's a pain in my behind, and I don't want her to think I don't think her "skills" are up to par.  Granted, I do feel that way, but I don't want it to sound like it!!!!  LOL!

And before I get bombarded for not being appreciative or being petty, read this:  I DO NOT WANT HER HELP.  AND SHE IS PERFECTLY HEALTHY AND ABLE TO PACK HER OWN KID'S LUNCH EVERY DAY. And to boot, I sometimes have answer questions like  "why did my sandwich have that bread today?" or "Mommy, you don't I don't like _______________."

Thanks in advance![/quote]

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