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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am currently pregnant with our first.  My sister in law (my brother's wife) has been struggling with infertility for 2 years, and they do not have any children.  I knew they had been struggling, and we were sensitive about our announcement to them.  However, since then, they have never brought up our pregnancy and the SIL never acknowledged it (either with a phone call or with an email).  When we told my brother, my SIL was not home at the time.  I assumed he would tell her and later she would give us a call or send an email at the very least, but she never did either of those things.  When we told my brother about the pregnancy (we waited until beginning of second trimester), he was very unenthused and acted very disinterested.

Not sure how to handle this given that our pregnancy announcement seems to have caused a further rift in the relationship with my brother and SIL.[/quote]

You might not know this if you have not gone through infertility but to actually ignore you and avoid the situation is most likely an extremely generous move on her part. I am sure she would LIKE to be happy and exuberant for you, but sometimes even doing the absolute minimum is really as far as you can stretch. I am sure that when she has resolved her own issues (or moved ahead somehow) she will be back in your lives. Just remember she is your family now and family relationships (in particular siblings) go through all kinds of ups and downs and you have to ride out the bad phases til you  get to the good ones. My brother completely ignored me and rarely spoke to me in his twenties  and now we are very close.   [/quote]

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