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[quote=Anonymous]Large family reunion for my side of the fam this wknd. Dh's mother and sister are here for an entirely unrelated event, but we invited then to the reunion ("youre family, too!"). We took a babysitter to help out (not to keep kids away from us). The reunion hosts also arranged a babysitter - a young Hispanic woman who we know very well and who sits for us more than any of the other cousins. Our kids love her. Our babysitter watched kids, but the group-sitter also spent most the brunch with our kids (others were a bit older and occupied themselves). At one time, our personal sitter was eating and the group-sitter was watching our kids play, but had dessert and was standing in between the kids area and the main tent, looking towards the tent (children in an entirely safe location right behind her). Another time, both babysitters were dancing while DH tended to our baby. MIL told on group sitter for offense of eating while watching kids and for dancing. She complained to my mother, the cousin who hired her, and my DH. DH got riled up by mother and came to me insisting that cousin dock group-sitters pay. SIL came to me and said I don't manage my help well and that I should have laid out clear expectations.
I just can't believe how easily DH falls for this kind of BS from his mom when we love both sitters and want them to want to sit our kids. MIL also never objected to our personal sitter eating or dancing, (who is white), so race is obviously an issue, too.

I'm just venting bc obviously, mil and sil are wrong (and crass and class-less) and DH is a pushover.[/quote]

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