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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Take the toys.  Keep anything that can be cleaned and used.  Then box them up the rest and recycle/donate/hide them.

The bigger issue seems to be that she is constantly questioning your choices.  Just tell her that you know that child-rearing norms have changed since she was raising her kids, but you're following the advice of your pediatrician.  You know that you have different ideas about what's safe/necessary, but you don't appreciate the constant criticisms and you'd appreciate it if she saved any comments for times she truly thinks you're doing something that might endanger your children.  Then stop with the back and forth.  Seriously, stop engaging.

Part of the dynamic here seems to be that you feel the need to assert your parenting supremacy over her verbally--"I'll have to look over the toys because some of them might not be safe."  Just say, "Thanks, Grandma!  I'd love to see my husband's old toys!"  You don't even have to tell her you're going to sort through them, just sort through them.  "Thanks for digging out those toys.  Brayden really loves his dad's old trucks!"

Which is to say, disengage.  She probably feels defensive because she raised her kids under the safety standards of the day, and you're constantly telling her that those aren't good enough.  [/quote]

Insightful post.[/quote]

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