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[quote=Anonymous]But that ship has NOT sailed.  You can always leave.

And frankly, if he is making financial decisions without you, divorce now before he gets you both into financial trouble.

I'm not the poster who said you married the wrong guy, but this is constructive advice.

I've witnessed these problems with family members and their marriages.  And the person who is the problem NEVER changes.  But what does happen is the other partner (you in this situation) gets entangled deeper and deeper to the point that it then becomes very difficult to leave.

At this point, you don't have children.  It's easier to leave now than to wait 5 years when you're more financially entangled and you possibly have a child.

If he is resistant to the idea that financial decisions on the order of over $1,000 dollars don't need to be run by you and he is unwilling to even entertain counseling, then I don't think he's going to change.

Usually, people only get worse.  These are HUGE red flags.

You're early enough in the marriage now.  If nothing else, you need to draw some boundaries.  You need to tell him that if he doesn't consult you, you will leave.

If he's taking you for granted NOW, trust me, it will only get worse.[/quote]

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