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[quote=Anonymous]My husband has always been distant from his parents.  When he was growing up, his mom had bipolar and was mean to him especially when his friends were hanging out in his house.  DH said he didn't have too many friends due to this reason.  His mother scared them away.  She was put under medication and then became more under control and according to DH, his brother turned out much better than him ( his brother has lots of friends/sunny personality/very successful in his field).  DH also resents his dad for not doing enough to get his mother under control.  DH also witnessed his mother suicide when he was younger.

Now, our DC just turned one year old and MIL tried desperately tried to connect with DH, me and, of course her grandson.  She would try to call DH many times and he wouldn't call back.  She got heartbroken and called me to ask me why.  I used to come up with excuses like " he is busy" " he forgot"...etc.  But now I stopped taking her calls as well because I just don't know what to say.  I used to have great relationship with her but after the baby, I felt like spending more time with my CORE family (DH, son and myself).  However, MIL expected us to go visit them weekly and every holiday because they live about one hour away each way. ( but that's still so far in my opinion) She would start calling us on Thursday to ask what we are doing on the weekend.  If we don't answer within 24 hours, she would call us again and left messages like " why are you mad at us" " what did I do wrong" .  And if we don't call her back for 3 days, she would be like " did you have any accident?".  I asked DH why he doesn't want to talk to his family.  He said he never felt like a part of family and kind of want to just spend time with his core family.  He said he is tired of her embarrassing him in public whenever she has a chance.  Well, I concurred with him regarding MIL having a tendency of saying things to embarrass people in public.  For example, last thanksgiving she said to me " Shame on you"  in front of dinner quests after knowing that I left her gift to DS in the toy truck from few weeks ago.  I totally forgot about the toy.

Honestly,  I am kind of annoyed by her being so neurotic.  I stopped calling her back because I felt I am kind of in an awkward situation.  But I know she is, after all, my husband's mother and my DC's grandma.  Now, I just don't know what to do.   PLEASE help! [/quote]

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