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[quote=Anonymous]My kids are adopted and biological and foster. They are ALL my flesh and blood. Period. They are all such a part of me, I cannot imagine anything else or any other life. They are grown now,

We had one bio child first. Then adopted. Then had foster children.

For me, I liked having the experience of the whole event (pregnancy through delivery) come first. Raising my biological child first gave me some perspective. I had gone through all the stages with the first DC. It was helpful because it allowed me to realize that my adopted and foster kids are just kids. Their issues are mostly KID issues. Just like my bio kid's issues are mostly KID issues. Not all of the issues that adopted kids face are adoption issues, or abandonment issues, or something related to that. Sometimes their issues simply are because they are human and are 3, or 12, or 17 years old.

So it was helpful to have our bio child first. Our bio child has no memory of life as an only child, as the first adopted sibling came along very soon. They became fast friends. And so it went.

Your life will change dramatically when you add biological, adopted, and/or foster kids to your family. But it has been soooo worth it. I am utterly blessed.

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