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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't want to waste money on lessons, already I can tell DD doesn't have dance talent (6). I'm glad we at least tried it for fun.[/quote]

Please reconsider this attitude. It comes across as "I don't pay if my kid can't 'go somewhere' with this activity," whether you meant it that way  or not.

You do not mention at all how your child feels about dance. Does she like it and have fun, still? Is she happy to go to class? Whether or not you, yourself, think she's got talent at it?

If she likes it and wants to continue, why does it matter whether she is naturally gifted at age six? Let her continue the activity that she likes. Would you require her to stay with another activity if she disliked it but you felt she had strong talent for it? Truly? That is the flip side of what you're saying here: She should do what [i]you [/i] believe she's good at doing, but her own enjoyment is not a factor; her ability and your money are the deciding factors.

As for "already I can tell DD doesn't have dance talent," are you a professional dance instructor qualified to say that? Even if you are -- wouldn't you want your child exposed to the musical learning, body awareness and exercise that comes with dance for even the lousiest student (IF that student likes it and wants to be there)?

If she herself has said she doesn't want to continue, fine. But when she does want to do something else -- soccer or softball or art lessons or fencing or music -- and you feel she lacks talent, are you then going to make her move on over and over until she has an activity at which you feel she's going to...do what? Major in that art form in college, or be a professional athlete, or whatever?

Let her pick activities based on whether she has fun and feels enthusiasm for them. Please don't tie up her activities in your purse strings and make things all about her ability. She might be terrible at something but love doing it. The point is DOING it, not the end product.

Isn't there anything YOU enjoy doing for its own sake even if you're not great at it? [/quote]

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