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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Would you be open to them moving nearby, once you move?

Damn, this thread is depressing. I picture myself old and alone, listening to the clock tick and The Skype calls to ring. What is wrong with you pp? Don't you get it, that family and grandchildren  can mean so much to our aging parents? I'm only 32 but I'm ashamed for those who treat their parents like they're a nuisance. OP your mom wants her family in her life, and she is anxious so she is badgering you. Time for a sit-down talk. PPs with healthy parental relationships, go call your parents; they miss you.[/quote]

Well, I'm the PP whose parents live 3 hours away and DH parents are in the area.  My parents have grandchildren who live on the same street as them, and also 5 minutes away.  So while I appreciate that they also would like to see my children more, it's not like they are completely alone.  We see them pretty routinely, about every 2-3 months, because we make the effort to travel to them and also make it very easy/nice for them to come visit us (LITERALLY - we built a house with a guest SUITE in it so that my parents can come visit.)  My DH's parents have other grandchildren in the area, and they also have the means to travel to visit their grandchildren -- and, were we to move - again - we would come visit them regularly and we would make it attractive for them to come to us.

So you can make a lot of very reasonable and appropriate efforts to have a close relationship with your parents - and sometimes it is actually THEY who are being unreasonable.[/quote]

OP here. This is the problem I'm facing. DH and I do not want to end up ruining our own lives and ending up in financial dire straits just to make my parents happy, especially since his live pretty far away and aren't making unreasonable demands on us. Unless my parents want to give us a million dollars so we can live on the northeast coast in an expensive suburb and by a new car with good mileage, we're pretty much SOL. [/quote]

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