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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP,

I found your post confusing (and yes a little obnoxious as PP mentioned).  You see a "psych" (psychologist/psychiatrist) but they don't recommend getting an evaluation of your son?  Has your son actually been diagnosed with ADHD?

If he has and is doing fine, I wouldn't worry about it.  If he starts to struggle, I would pursue accommodations through the school.

[b]BTW, my brother has ADHD and went to Harvard all without medications/accommodations. [/b] Most people don't go to college in this country and of those who do, only a fraction end up at an "ivy."  If you made it in your field regardless, I'm not sure why you would care if your son did or didn't.  [/quote]

I know several people like this with ADHD or Asperger's/ASD.  They all went to school when these diagnosis were not common or did not exist:  AS was not recognized in the DSM until the early 90ties.  These are obviously people who did not need any accommodations and their condition was mild and/or they could compensate enough for their disability to still be successful.

OP, if your son is doing well without any "help" don't worry about it.  If at some point, you think he would do better with accommodations then seek a diagnosis.  I have a friend who was not diagnosed with ADHD until he graduated from a top 10 law school.  He is currently a dean at a large public law school on the West Coast.  Could he have done better in school with accommodations?  Maybe, maybe not.  But even my friend thinks he would have been happier knowing earier what was "wrong" with him.  Something to consider...[/quote]

14:43, this is OP again. Thank you for your thoughtful reply. To clarify, we do have a diagnosis of ADD - this is from the psychiatrist who treats me. She says his is more mild than mine, which is severe, but she is watching his - we see her monthly, and we are both on medication.  He has a little brother who definitely has issues with impulse control and the psychiatrist thinks that he probably has it as well.

To clarify, and maybe sound less obnoxious to the others - I shouldn't have said I am at the top of my field. Actually, I once was, when I stayed in the office till 9 or 10 every night, or working till midnight or 2 a.m., as I did throughout my twenties.  Once I stopped doing that, after having my son, things started to fall apart. I am the person who comes up with "brilliant" ideas that other people then run with, because I stumble in executing. When I am on a team with people to assist me, we do kick ass - and do some of the very best work in our field - but when I have to work more independently, it is a disaster. I forget, I am late, etc. I also piss people off because of this, obviously. What I am worried about is that my son is going to turn out just like me -- appearing to be "smart" and "fine" but really not learning how to organize himself. So my question was if the school can help him, or if they really won't help unless his grades suffer. I think they suspect something - he is the boy who is late to school a lot (because of his mother), the one whose forms aren't turned in on time, the one whose mother forgets about the important events, etc. It's not always like this, but more than I'd like. ...So maybe the question should be two-fold...how can I help myself to be a better organized Mom and thus help my son, and also, how can you help an ADD child who appears to be doing well academically but has not gotten any supports to really learn how to manage his ADD symptoms?  Thank you! [/quote]

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