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[quote=Anonymous]So here is the very difficult situation.  Five years we moved back to the DC area after living in Asia for four years.  We had been ther for my job, and then I relocated to DC.  We bought a house and got settled in, and then my DW started looking for work. She has not been able to find a job in five years.  She has two degrees - a B.A. In Journalism and an M.A. in International Relations from an Ivy League School. She has worked in the past as a communications professional on international health projects and for foreign companies abroad.  She is also multi-lingual.

She takes her frustration out on me in what any outside observer would term verbal abuse.  I have withdrawn from trying assist her to find a job because each time a lead goes dead or something goes wrong, it is "my fault."  I understand it is hard for her, so I sometimes bite my tongue and say nothing and other times tell her I don't appreciate how she is talking to me which usually just elicits a "f**k you." I have suggested counseling for us and perhaps that she work with a career coach, both of which she shots down.

I do question whether she really wants to work because I see her do things that I think are self sabotaging.  For instance, she will seemingly do anything else around the house - cleaning, rearranging her shoe collection, etc. - the go to the gym and run errands (all after DD has left for school) and then when DD comes home she will start to say she hasn't had time all day to focus on her job search.  I also see her applying for positions for which she is obviously not qualified and then getting rejected.  I feel bad for her, but do not know how and whether I can help.

I am afraid if she continues on this path, we will end up divorced.  I never did plan to be the sole breadwinner and college is looming for DD.  I work very long hours and take on extra assignments to bring in more income, but I am basically feeling a lot of financial pressure.  I am afraid if we get divorced I will saddled with paying alimony to someone who has both the education and the means to work, but either can't or won't. Any advice is appreciated.[/quote]

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