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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Maybe it is racism, maybe it is ageism.  Whatever it is, you are going to need to live with it, so you should probably examine your own behavior a little more to see if you could make it better.

1.  With the first incident, did you say excuse me?  Or did you really say some version of will you move, I need space?  The second is much ruder than the first.

2.  With the second incident, how many laundry machines are there and how many were you using?  In many buildings with communal laundry, it is very rude to use more than one at a time.P

3.  With the third incident, seriously, you need to watch out.  In general, if you live in a building with a ton of old people, you should be treating them with extreme respect (even if they are batshit crazy), so make sure that nothing like this could ever happen, and when it does (as things do), apologize with respect.  None of this, "Brain not working" crap.  Say "I'm so sorry."

4.  Try to make a mommy friend or two in the building.  Ask what they do and what the culture is.  In many of these buildings, there are longstanding issues and feuds, tread carefully until you learn how to negotiate.

5.  Be extremely nice to the staff and tip well when appropriate (even if just for Christmas).  Treat them with great respect.

6.  Attend condo meetings, but know your place.  You are new.  Thay have been dealing with issues for a long time.  Sit back and make friends before you make demands.

Good luck.  I don't envy you.[/quote]

OP here. In response,

(1) I smiled, said I'm so sorry to bother you but I need to get past you. Do you mind moving?  I'm really sorry. 
When she only moved 1/4 of an inch I said "I'm so so sorry to interrupt again (she was on her blackberry), but I need a bit more space!  This stroller is pretty big!  (side note- it isnt really that big, she was blocking the entrance).

(2) I used 2 machines and there are 12 available.

(3) i said "oh!  I'm so sorry!  My brain isn't working today!!  Haha!!"

(4) not many mommy friends here actually. Not many mommies at all.

(5) the staff loves me (thankfully). One of them is leaving and told me privately how much he hates the other people in the building. I just smiled and said nothing. They are rude to the staff too, but are nicer to them than to me.

(6) yes I should go to the meetings but they're at 7 which is when I put the baby to sleep. Plus, my husband gets home around then.

I have one friend in the building who told me the shithead caller is crazy. That made me feel a but better.

Maybe I should just move!  :-)[/quote]

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