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[quote=Anonymous]All I remember from our childhood is him getting in trouble and running to ask for my help. I got physical with a few boys bigger than me to rescue him.

We fought a lot (the thread on sibling torture made me laugh) but I loved him to pieces.

He's been always known as being cheap. He was saving his allowance and always had money to lend. We grew older, I left my parents' home he stayed. I watched from a distance his "mutation". He became almost abusive. He arrived from work at 6PM, my mom at 11PM. He'd wait for her to arrive and yell asking her to heat up his plate. This is just one example. He'd pay the water bill and scream at my mom for letting the faucet dripp. If he paid electricity he'd arrive and change the channel saying he paid the bill so he gets to pick the show. Stuff like that.

I blamed it on his immaturity and thought after leaving my parents house and getting married he'd change. Ha! Silly me. When I try to talk to my mom about it she says I'm not perfect either so I should quit trashing her son. That I have no right to talk like that to her and it hurt her feelings.

Anyway, after 5 years away from home I went back to visit. My plan was to rent a car to go home from the airport but my brother offered me to use his car. I thanked him and offered to pay the gas. I also asked if my dad could use his car to drop us off at the airport He said fine. My dad made the math, I got the money and put it in an envelope I planned on handing to him with a few gifts I brought from the US along with one item he ordered from the US and I brought with me. DH suggested me to give the ordered item as a gift also for him offering his car. I agreed.

Well, first of all, we showered them (him, SIL) with gifts. He didn't bother to get the kids a gift. No, I don't give gifts to get gifts back but I thought he'd think of getting the kids something. It was the first time he was meeting his niece and nephew.

I asked my mom to bake a cake to celebrate DC's birthday and told her to call my bother. He invited his MIL, SIL, BIL and their 2 kids. I was thrilled! We had such an awesome time together. After the cake he went to his car and brought 3 huge bags with gifts for everybody except me and my kids. WTF?????

I was in shock! I didn't say a word at the time and when I tried to talk to my mom about it she brushed it off saying it was no biggie and complimenting me for handling it with class - I ran inside and gave older DC a gift I had wrapped earlier. Younger DC doesn't get it yet.

I stayed at my parents for 2 weeks. I paid for all the groceries and outings. One day we ran to the grocery with my brother and I grabbed a 4 pack of apple sauce and a jar of peanut butter. He paid the whole bill with Sodexo stamps.

When we sat down to do the math he was such an ass harping on how I should pay the gas for the car ride to the airport in advance (note that I already had the money for it in the envelope) and on and on about paying also the peanut butter he paid with Sodexo - note that he earns his salary and the Sodexo stamps are a benefit. He spends only 30% of it every month. The rest rolls over.

He's been bombarding my Facebook inbox and DH's begging us to vote for some picture of him so he can win a trip. I didn't have the time to even look at it. Today he sent me a message calling me an "unsupportive sister" because I didn't do it. I then wrote him the longest message saying that I didn't do it because I'm packing our move, while DH is away on a business trip and I'm left with 2 sick kids and no wallet (I forgot it in DH's car). He didn't respond yet.

DH is pretty hurt too. We'd never dream to charge a family member for gas or a ride to the airport. Not to mention food!

Anyway, I'm pretty hurt by the things he did to me and my kids. Our relationship as young adults was never very loving but not toxic either but now I don't know. I never thought we would be the broken family that doesn't get along. I'm so disappointed!

How is your relationship with your younger brother?
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