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[quote=Anonymous]I think that I am more sensitive to the personal space/time thing than many and need to translate it to the ILs politely. The issue is that they live 40 minutes away and we see them every 2-3 weeks, sometimes more often, plus they call everyday. Besides not being their biggest fan, I am very tired of spending most of my weekends with them. To add to my annoyance now ILs think that family gatherings do not provide them enough quality time with the baby and decided to assign a weekday to the family members to come visit my child (8 m.o.) when we are at work.  So on Tuesdays MIL will come in and play with the DC and on Thursday SIL (she's older and unmarried) will come play with the baby, and maybe MILs sister will visit along with the MIL sometimes. I don't like it and especially upset with the fact that they did not even bother asking  if they can come in as they think they are my DC's guests, not mine. I tried saying that this is not a good idea, but they argue that on contrary, they will observe the nanny at work (she just started), they will get some quality time with the baby, and they will sometimes cook and  eat dinner with us. I just want my personal space, I don't like my house reorganized while I am away, although yes, they do have a point about the nanny. I know, many of you would love this set up, but I guess I am a private person and I am not warm and fuzzy about ILs. How should I politely but firmly word my feelings?
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