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[quote=Anonymous]I am worried about my husband's drinking.  We are in our 40s, and we have been together since our 20s.  We both love wine.  While I wouldn't say that it is a central part of our marriage, over the years, we have taken trips to vineyards, and we enjoy a bottle of wine in the evening or after dinner.  Admittedly, there are times when that bottle might turn into two if we had friends over, but that was not the norm, and this was not an everyday occasion.  Fast forward to now.  I still enjoy a glass of wine, but what was probably an every day habit is now once a week, maybe twice, and I rarely even finish that one glass.  On the contrary, practically every night, my DH opens up and finishes a bottle of wine all to himself.  Most of this drinking is all by himself.  He probably opened up the bottle when he turned on the grill, and then he finished it while cleaning the kitchen when I was putting the kids to bed.  When I went downstairs after putting the kids to bed, I realized that he was completely drunk.  When he gets like this, he is rather incomprehensible, doesn't say much, and if you confront him (I tried), he sulks.  We went through this a few months ago, and we discussed it, and decided that no alcohol was the way to go.  He did stop cold turkey.  And then he would have a glass at dinner every so often when we were out.  I really just assumed perhaps he didn't realize how much he was drinking and/or that I wasn't sharing the wine with him.  But today, again, he went through a whole bottle, and then was clearly drunk.  He does not drink during the day, nor does he drink when we are out to dinner (maybe a glass, but nothing more).  The only alcoholics I've known are people who could not stop drinking, and my husband can stop.  His issue seems to be more of creeping moderation, but does that make him an alcoholic?  Thankfully, I don't travel for work much, but I have to admit that I wouldn't leave him alone with my kids at night.  A couple of years ago, I thought he might be experiencing some neurological issues, but he had a full work-up (cat-scan, etc.) and got a clean bill of health.

I really don't know what to do.  I have a good relationship with his primary care doctor, and I'm tempted to give him a call.  I don't want to involve my in-laws, because I think that would make the issue worse not better.

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