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[quote=Anonymous]I can tell you my thought process on adoption vs donor egg--the statistics and timeline on donor egg are much more encouraging.

I did just lose a donor egg pregnancy.  Heart is still shattered.  But my odds are STILL very high, unless post-healing testing shows that something has changed.

I read so so so many adoption stories of failed adoptions, the heartbreak involved. . . it is not an easy path.

I will not be genetically related either way.  But since the odds are higher for success with donor egg, it's faster, and I am able to carry it, I've decided on this route.  I could end up having to adopt--with donor egg I do get my money back if it doesn't work, so . . . I chose to go after the donor egg first.

I have to tell you, I loved that baby so much from the moment I felt the nausea that made me sure I'd get the BFP.  From the moment Shady Grove gave me the embryo picture, actually.  And after I saw the heartbeat, I talked to him/her everyday.  Asked about what it liked to eat, assured it that chocolate was good for both of us, told him/her about the plans I had for us, the cousins that were waiting. . . so the question of love is a non-question--my child IS my child.  But for me, the odds favored, and still favor, donor egg, with a similar if not actually cheaper price tag, depending on how/if it works.

No matter which way you go, the end result is a joy.  How, and how fast you want it, is the question.  And if you're younger than me, perhaps adoption is the faster option.  So your personal circumstances and "qualifications" for each choice will make a difference in your decision.

May we both be holding our babies soon.[/quote]

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