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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Obnoxious.

If this were me I would email the MIL (after I had cooled down) and say that I had" seen the facebook exchange and it really troubled me.  I assume from what I read that you expressed some level of disapproval/unhappiness about my not allowing DC to have all of your icing.  I recognize that you (or anyone) may not approve of all of my parenting decisions but I would ask that you respect them.  I didn't think it was necessary, or a good idea, for DC to eat all of that pure sugar.  It was a fairly minor item.  And it was an unfortunate, though also pretty minor mistake that your friend made in posting on my wall instead of yours.  But it made me question how you talk about me as the parent of your grandchild and frankly that doesn't feel great."

Maybe she'd be shamefaced enough to apologize and think a little more carefully in the future.

Or maybe it will open the door to a larger conversation about how you and she can be on the same side, or what some basic principles are of yours that she could support instead of subvert.

I had an incident similar to this w/ my MIL when I was pregnant.  (She overshared to a horrifying extent detals of my medical condition w/ total strangers.)  When I confronted her in a way similar to what I outlined above she was so apologetic and has been MUCH more considerate/careful since.  Of course, we haven't had as much luck navigating those sorts of things w/ the kids so I wish you luck!!  [/quote]

I think this is a little overkill. Just up your privacy settings on FB so random "friends of friends" cannot see or post on your page.  Your MIL is going to complain so you can't do anything about it.

I would take it more seriously if MIL shows lack of judgment towards safety/allergies, or if she watches your DC regularly and alone.  [/quote]

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