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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. Thanks, PPs, and keep it coming. I hadn't thought about it that way, but it is clear that I am reinforcing and validating this by engaging at all. I do praise her and others primarily for being brave, kind, helpful, hardworking, etc. I grew up with a mom who was very concerned with how I looked--too pretty and I was showing her up, too homely and I was making her look bad--not exactly healthy. I want something better for DD, but obviously I am projecting a bit here. So what would be a better response? Do I just challenge her assumption ("Why can't a dress be beautiful with mud on it?") and then leave it to her even if she chooses to opt out of an activity? She is also a bit shy, and I think some of this is wanting a convenient excuse for not stepping out of her comfort zone (e.g., she is more willing to get dirty at home with her brother than at a park with strangers).[/quote]
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