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[quote=Anonymous]Pumpkin here!

I told my boss early because I had to run out of a meeting to throw up (he was also at the meeting, so were a bunch of my board members). Honestly, it has been annoying even though he has been really supportive. Last time around, he told a ton of coworkers before I was ready, etc, so I was determined not to tell early this time, until I threw up. I hear you on the misogynistic stuff. Any time I voice even the slightest bit of impatience with him, he chalks it up to the pregnancy hormones. I had to tell him to stop saying it, that it was offending me and he was out of bounds. He seriously didn't get it until I spelled it out. BTW, boss is kind of clueless, not misogynistic in a malevolent way in any way. If I had the choice not to tell in your shoes, I would not. AND, then once it became obvious, I'd go ice queen about it. LIke, yes, I'm pregnant, and no, I'm not entertaining questions or comments about it. You could say this with humor if you think it will work, but if they're truly jerky, I'm not sure I'd waste a ton of time on them.

Do what you can to nip the jokes and comments in the bud. Have you ever considered documenting exactly who says what and when, and going to your boss with your concerns? If she's supportive, perhaps you can have a really open conversation about it? If you don't tell her what goes on, she may not know. I have several direct reports and I can tell you that if someone comes to me with a concern like that, I am obligated to investigate it as a matter of corporate policy. Not sure if military has different rules, but you shouldn't have to endure comments like that  - pregnant or not.

good luck!

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