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[quote=Anonymous]Ok so here's my complicated story. My mother in law, who I love so much, got breast cancer. It was devastating for our family but she has had surgery and is currently undergoing chemo.  My sister in law used my mil for childcare 3 full days a week.  Obviously when we got the news she had to stop taking care of the kids and focus on her own health.  Out of the 5 sibs my husband is the only one with a stay at home spouse and long story short I felt obligated to take the kids until they found other arrangements.  We are now 4 months into me having 2 extra kids 3 days a week and its starting to be too much.  I've gone from hinting to straight up asking and my sil had an emotional breakdow and said her hiring a sitter is just not a financial option and how she is really embarrassed but it's true. I know better than to count other people's pennies but since both my bil and sil work for thr gov I know for a fact their HHI is much higher than ours, but I'm torn bc they do indeed have much bigger car payments and a bigger mortgage and obv those bills don't go away. I guess my resentment is festering bc I feel like you should be able to pay for childcare before you start to accumulate other bills, but they counted on free childcare indefinitely apparently.  My husband agrees with me and is pissed they don't have a plan B but he is really concerned about his mom and doesn't want to rock the boat right now, as treatment is going well but there have been some bumps along the way and the future is still unknown. He basically wants me to suck it up in the name of his mom. In theory I know that's what I should do but my day to day life is getting crazy.  Going from 3 kids (mine) to 5 is really quite honestly above my ability. I am still nursing my third and now potty training one of mine and one of hers. My oldest now has to get a ride back from preschool  on the days I have everyone and it just makes me feel shitty. I quit my job bc I couldn't handle it all, I was finally starting to handle my life, and now I have 2 more kids majority of the time.  I know I'm going to come off as a complete bitch but maybe someone out there has some advice? I do love my nephews and I want to be a good aunt and I want the cousins to all be great friends it's just hard on a day to day basis. Also with my kids I could get out of the house when my older one was in preschool and see the world, with 4 or 5 kids that's impossible (for me, god bless those who do it) so I also feel house trapped and it's making me depressed.[/quote]

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