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[quote=Anonymous]While perhaps not directly answering your question, I will share my experience with with a nanny.  I worked at home and had a full time nanny for five years.  It was a good situation, where I got to have snacks and snuggle time, unless it wasn't, when I was trying to block out the sounds of screaming toddlers downstairs while on teleconferences and felt completely distracted by what was going on two rooms away.  On top of that, my husband and I argued that I would have to do every doctors visit/school program/grocery run, simply because I was at home.  All of this, and I still felt the pressure to focus on my kids intensely between the hours of 5 and 8, taking very little time for myself even on the weekends because of the guilt of not spending more time with them.

It was stressful.  I burned out.  I couldn't be everything to everyone, and I ended up leaving my job.  I'm a SAH now, and I can say that I am not giving nearly the intense attention to them that I did, I would say our "quality time" may even be less than when I worked (thus, me typing away madly on my iPad as they try to get my attention.)  That stated, we're all happier than we were, I think they're better-adjusted and I'm certainly less stressed, but I walked away from a lucrative career at a point when it may be difficult for me to recreate the situation I had.

If you're happy, he's happy, and it allows you're do what you want, you should embrace the situation.  I think human nature is to "grass is greener" everything, but if it works for you, that's all that matters.  
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