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[quote=Anonymous]The scenario you describe is very similar to what I went through as a teen.  My mom had my half sister when I was about 14.  I have to say, I loved (and still love) my little sister--she's my real sister--I don't even call her my half sister unless I'm explaining the relationship (as now).  Any lack of closeness is due to our age difference, which has improved as she's grown up.  And my mom couldn't have been any better (I lived with her though) I never felt usurped b/c it was clear my mom loved me to pieces too.  So, I never felt excluded by my mom.  I think one concern you might want to consider is YOUR relationship with her since it sounds like you have a good one.  I felt left out by my stepdad.  I'm not sure how you get around this, since I think you're probably going to love your own baby who you raise from the get go more (but maybe not).  It sounds like you're a great stepparent b/c you're asking the questions.  But I recommend you be mindful that even though you are not her biological parent she may feel a connection to you and you should continue to nurture that even after your baby is born.  maybe let her help recommend names (or the middle name).  Do a family photo session with ALL of you, etc.  My stepdad was clearly over the moon about finally having "his own" kid.  As an adult, I now understand it, and though it didn't affect my relationship with my sister or my mom, it definitely hurt my feelings.  So any way that you can try to maintain a special relationship with your stepdaughter is a good idea.  [/quote]

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