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[quote=Anonymous]Sorry for your struggles, OP.  I feel you here.  My husband is the same way.  Well, except he can talk about sex a little, but usually only if I ask him...like "what felt better, when I did this or that?"  But he has trouble doing eye contact, connections made with affection, affectionate touch, expressing anything in words other than cursory "love you".  I almost always initiate sex and affection.  I have found out he wants to have sex other times but has a hard time initiating.  He won't even initiate cuddling, though he very much likes cuddling (he has said so).  I can ask "Do you want to cuddle?" and he says "Alright, if you want to".....He cannot say "Yes"  Get the difference?  I know it sounds nitpicky, but when you are with someone who is so closed down, you notice that they can't even say "Yes" to that question, they have to make it more like they are simply willing to cuddle if that is what you want.  It is like they can't even be vulnerable enough to admit they actually want to cuddle.

Sigh.  We've been together 20 years. [/quote]

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