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[quote=Anonymous]Hi. My DH has been out of work for 7 months now (though he has been looking for a new job for about 14 months). He is demoralized at the lack of opportunities and progress, and has decided to start his own business.  The business he is starting will be difficult to make profitable, but will provide him with something to say when people ask what he does for a living. He will probably work 50-60 hours a week for no salary for the next couple of years.

We have a preschooler and an infant.  I make $100k.  By the time taxes, 401k, and healthcare premiums come out of my paycheck, we have $60k to spend on our lives.  If we keep our kids in childcare, we will spend over half of our take-home pay on just that line item, leaving about $25-$30k a year for EVERYTHING else - rent, food, clothes, etc.

We are used to an upper-middle class lifestyle, and while I'm willing to economize, I dont see any way to live in the DC metropolitan area on this.  Finding a 2BR apartment for less than $1500/month is not easy without a crazy commute (that probably adds to the childcare costs). How do I get DH to understand that if we are going to keep childcare in place, he has to make at least enough to break even on that line item?  He says I'm being selfish and unsupportive.  I think I'm looking at math and coming to a logical conclusion - he either needs a job or needs to care for the kids.  Am I being unsupportive?  This is such an emotional minefield, and taking a toll on the marriage.   :([/quote]

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