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[quote=Anonymous]Up until a couple years ago, my career was very important to me in that I was willing to work hard and put in long hours to do a job that I believed in and felt was advancing my career. Then I got burnt out at my last job which was demanding, accepted a new job which is pretty much stress-free but isn't really advancing my career. And in the meantime I've had a child and have immense flexibility in this new, stress-free job. So now a new job opportunity falls on my plate that would offer major career advancement but it would mean going back to long hours and likely a very stressful position. One part of me wants it because I've felt lazy in my current job but the other part of me realizes I would give up a lot of flexibility and would likely not see my son much, if at all, during the week. Right now I get paid decently for the hours I work and work for amazing people who give me a lot of latitude to come and go as I please. I'm crazy to consider giving it up, right? I figure even if I got a $20-30k raise I would be sacrificing time with my son which feels like it's worth much more to me.

I think the answer for now is to stay where I am. However, the more I think about this the more I realize this will always be a problem. Once my son is out of daycare there will be before and after care and soccer practice and sick days and PTA and everything else that comes along. Life won't ever slow down so it feels like I'll never have time again to devote to my career. I don't want to feel like I'm giving up but that's what it seems like.

I don't really have any specific question but am more venting and looking for perspective from other recent moms. How do we balance desire for career and family? I know there's no perfect answer but hearing about other's experiences would be really nice right now.

TIA.[/quote]

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