Reply to did your marriage survive a long-term affair?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "did your marriage survive a long-term affair?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The other woman is unmarried. She was a friend of ours actually (ouch). I don't work, so at least I can just focus on the kids and if I need to be a hermit and never leave the house for awhile no one can make me. Though I will try to get out and about and keep up my friendships, even if I can't tell my friends what's going on.

When he moved out, was it to a hotel, an apartment, or what? I was considering having him stay in a hotel nearby but that adds up fast ($$) and I'm still home maintaining the house and kids. But I'm still nursing so I literally can't leave the kids for more than a few hours.

When you were separated, did you still keep up togetherness for social purposes? Like if there was an event you needed to attend together would you both go and just pretend for the sake of others?

I do feel like I have a strong support network, if I need to tap into it (which I haven't because we are keeping it quiet for now). And young kiddos are still a lot of work and will take up most of my focus. But my mind still has plenty of time to be going crazy right now.[/quote]

You have the power right now. At the very least, he can be more hands on with the kids and YOU can go out and clear your head for a few hours at a time.

I am a single mom, but I made sure when I left that I didnt set things up to be completely my responsibility. I wouldnt recommend you leave anyway at this time, but rather in another 2 years or so if you're not able to get past it. Either way, your DH needs to bond with your kids so that regardless of what happens, he can handle them for long periods of time without you. This could mean you stay together but you have more "me" time or you're divorced years from now and sharing custody. I say this because you can't be certain either that he won't walk away either.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics