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[quote=Anonymous]I am going to look at this from another perspective, as the mother of a robust 18 month old, born when I was 44.

OP, you present your story of your child's condition as if it is a given that it is a result of you being older when he was born.  There are so many other reasons that could have caused his issues, including, although you do not say it, IVF handling or illness during your pregnancy.

I am sorry you and your husband are in ill health.  Yes, you were healthier when you were younger, and if you had had a child then, then perhaps you would be a more able parent.   I'd like to point out, however, that just because you are ill as an older parent does not mean that all parents that have children in their 40s will be ill in their 50s.

Plus, if you want to say that the chance of illness down the line should give you a reason not to have a child, then I suggest that any person who has risk factors for later health issues should think twice before having children.  For example, if you a person who flirts with obesity, then you should think about whether your health and your ability to keep up with your child should force you to choose not to have a child.

I do not see anyone screaming on these board that overweight parents should not have children.   There should not be such doomsday naysaying about older parents either.    I can keep up with my toddler just as well as my younger overweight neighbor can keep up with hers.  In fact, I'd say I can outrun her in a heartbeat.

And, BTW, I do agree with the previous poster than the media, and reproductive clinics, have done a disservice to potential parents that they can have children well over 40. I did not go the IVF route, but seeing all those 40 something stars with babies made my husband sure we'd be able to have a child later.  We had pretty much given up when we got our little one (who is our second, btw).  I had my first in my late 30s. [/quote]

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