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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]we’ll be empty nesters in the fall and sort of impromptu switched houses this spring. Being forced to clean out the layers of stuff from raising a family has helped me feel less stuck in this season of change. I thought we were fairly organized but found things tucked away in the garage I didn’t know we still had like the razor scooters. We donated/gave away/tossed around 10 car loads of stuff.

Kids bought into the move since they got to decorate new college era, more adult bedrooms and we have a pool and jacuzzi now.

I also needed a new car after 10 years (and so many carpools) and switched from a three row to something nicer and smaller. Shaking things up in my physical spaces is helping me feel more forward focused. I’m keeping the same job but reduced my hours a bit to travel more, even if a lot of it is just parents weekends and visiting my kid going abroad. [/quote]

This is kind of where I am... I've done a lot of small (often under $10k) improvements on my house, and it's always been a good move, especially to carry me through prior periods of dissatisfaction.

Right now I'm considering a relatively extensive outdoor overhaul-- I'd like to get rid of some messy, gloomy trees that are at the end of their lives, and install terracing and nice fences and other hardscaping elements, and have a lovely outdoor space with lots of room for gardening and lounging. But the thing is, doing this will eat up the savings I could otherwise spend on a bigger change, like moving away from DC, or I don't know, setting up an organic basketweaving commune. So I'm hesitating. Spending that money would effectively trap me in my current well-paying-but-boring job. And the prospect of 20 more years of this is wretched, even with a place to grow masses of flowers and some good tomatoes. Plus, spending that chunk of savings means less protection from future professional upheavals, which makes me super nervous. [/quote]

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