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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you need to find a gateway friend.  That is, a friend who is a gateway to a larger social circle, who will let you come in.  I had a ton of those when I was child-free and younger; it's a little harder now as people have paired off, had kids and stopped going out as much. (I've also become that friend in some cases.)  When you're talking to people you like (work, wherever), try to figure out if they have a circle you might fit into.  You might also have to come out of your comfort zone and extend invitations to do stuff.  Those cozy circles didn't just happen - someone made them happen and kept them going.  It takes work.  (I have a great social life, but it's probably come at the expense of work at times, and dating at times, and sobriety at times, lol.)

You also sound like you might have low self-esteem if you're internalizing other people's busy lives and interpreting that as "they have no time for me."  For all they know, you have your own busy, active life.  Not everyone puts as much thought/analysis into it as you have.

good luck!
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