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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wouldn't at all jump to no/low contact. That makes me really sad, OP. This is a kid! A kid who is growing and learning. I guarantee that every single one of us was annoying and socially clueless at times, just like every other kid in the history of kids.

For some reason Cousin has gotten the message that reporting these achievements is a way to gain social capital. Your kid simply needs to opt out of the discussion and not provide fuel for Cousin.

Cousin: [Brags, asks competitive question.]
Your Kid: "Huh. Why do you want to know?"

Cousin: I just want to know!
YK: I don't know why it matters.

Cousin: I want to see who wins.
YK: That sounds like a weird thing to try to "win".

Cousin: Why won't you tell me?
YK: Idk bro, let's talk about something else.

Cousin: Why won't you tell me, it must mean your score is really bad/you have no friends.
YK: Ok.
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This.   Please don’t teach your kid to drop anyone in their life who is less than perfect.  Your kid can handle this and you should believe in her.  She doesn’t have to play the cousin’s stupid games but she can handle talking to her anyway.

To me, this sounds like a tween/teen who just discovered social media.   It feeds and reinforces this dynamic.  [/quote]

Is this kid a golden child? I agree with the poster who talked about the parents. it must be coming from them. Is the cousin otherwise nice or just unpleasant all around? If the former then I agree teach your kid skills. If the latter, then LC may be better. Bettter to teach your kid that they shouldn't have to tolerate meanness[/quote]

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