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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I recently matched with a guy on OLD. He lives about 3 hours away. We haven’t had a chance to meet in person and likely won’t until mid-July because of travel plans.

I haven’t been investing much into it since we haven’t even met - I’ll text a couple times a week, and we’ll have a phone call once a week for 30-45 minutes. For me this is very casual, since we haven’t met yet and I won’t know if it’s something worth pursuing until we do.

Last night when we were talking, he mentioned he’s not going to be dating anyone else because he wants to be 100% focused on me. This made me VERY uncomfortable.

I don’t even know the guy yet, and I don’t want the responsibility of him being more or less committed to me when I’m certainly not committed to him. Nice guy, has some good qualities, but I don’t even know the guy and won’t know him until we get in-person time.

Now I’m also feeling hesitant to meet in person because I’m worried there’s this big expectation I’ll be a girlfriend and not just a first date. And I don’t want to hurt him if he’s been “committed” for a couple months and I end up not liking him in person and end things.

Would you say something to him? I told him that I don’t think he should stop dating other people and he said that’s his choice. But I want to make it very clear, I do not feel the same way back and I do not want expectations put on me. I also don’t want him getting hurt unnecessarily. [/quote]
This is his way of showing that he is not just looking for a one night stand like most guys on OLD. He wants a committed relationship and is making it clear upfront.[/quote] Absolutely over the top before even meeting in person. Red flags all over the place. OP: RUN.[/quote]

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