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[quote=Anonymous]This sounds pretty even to me. My one beef would be that Spouse A should do everyone's laundry. If they are really leaving Spouse B's laundry for them to do, that's a reasonable beef. Laundry person should Laundry.

The other X factor I would say is how much between-cleans cleaning is done. For us, we have a monthly cleaner and in between we do very little, basically just nightly kitchen duties (spot sweep, wipe counters, load and run dishwasher, etc). If you also have a monthly cleaning person and you're essentially cleaning the whole house 1-3 other times a month, that is a ton of work. But my answer would be... don't do that. You can live with a toilet that's cleaned monthly, really. We do. If you both agree the house needs significant additional cleaning, then I would say Spouse B has a bit too much. If they're just doing the occasional spot-clean at the half way mark (<1 hr total) then, yeah, I think this is pretty even.

And you didn't mention nightly kitchen duties - I'm assuming that you're somehow splitting dishes/kitchen cleanup/dishwasher unloading. If Spouse B is doing this, then yeah, this is unfair and Spouse B is doing too much.

Otherwise, I see two people who work full time, each taking about half the kid shlepping and about half the food/meal work. One is taking on more of the logistical labor (spouse A) while one is doing more at home labor (spouse B). One does all the laundry, one handles the home maintenance/repairs. I could see an argument for handing Spouse B the vacation planning (since they're in charge of the calendar anyway). But that's pretty small. [/quote]

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