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[quote=Anonymous]I am in a long term committed relationship (3 years so far); we love each other very much (as in ‘til death do is part).  Each of us are in only our second serious relationship, after tragically losing our spouses of multiple decades.

In our marriages, finances were joint, and it never mattered a whit who paid a restaurant bill, from inexpensive to lavish,  because everything was from one pot. Now in this relationship we have separate finances but a joint account to pay for hotels and restaurants.  However, my partner, despite significantly out earning me and with a higher net worth, doesn’t like it when an expensive meal goes on the joint card — they want to be treated.

This is a source of sporadic tension.  I like things to be as fair and equitable as possible.  They just like to be treated.  Well doesn’t everybody?  I’m not sure how to prevent these flair-ups, but consistently picking up big checks for my richer partner is not sustainable.  And talking about it is unpleasant and ruins the mood.

Has anyone out there successfully navigated this kind of situation?[/quote]

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