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[quote=Anonymous]I just got my first trimester screening back, and my chances for a baby with Down Syndrome are 1:50 (I am 32).  I went in yesterday for the materniT21 test, and will have to wait a week or so before I know the results.  This is weighing heavy on my heart as I don't know what DH and I will decide if the test comes back positive.  This is baby #2 for us, and we got pregnant on the first try.  Older DC is not yet 2.  Having a DS baby will be incredibly challenging due to so many factors; DC #1's young age/dependence on us, DH's massive anxiety for which he refuses medication (but he is in CBT), the fact that I suffered with PPD with DC #1 and am concerned it will happen again, and of course just the "regular" challenge of raising a DS child.  I am pro-choice but anti-abortion for myself (as well as a pretty lapsed Catholic-but oh that early training remains!), but since I have gotten the news, I find myself pondering termination.

On the other hand, a (large) part of me shrinks away from this thought in horror.  Everyone has a different definition of life; mine is, and has been firmly since I was pregnant with DC #1, that once I see a heartbeat and the baby is moving around, that baby is alive.  I'm sure others would disagree, but to ME, I have a living being in me right now, and the thought of killing it just because it would make my life difficult is repellent to me.  But the thought remains...

I am reaching out to moms who have terminated due to a positive DS result.  I would very much like to hear how you arrived at your decision.  Were your thoughts similar to mine?  Was there never a second of doubt?  How bad was your emotional "fallout" afterwards?  Again, everyone is different, and I will not judge-my feelings are my own, and I only mentioned them earlier so posters could see what I was struggling with, not as a standard to which I think everyone must be held.

Thank you for your thoughts.[/quote]

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