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[quote=Anonymous]It is stressful, isn't it?  Your kid is right to be stressed about this because it is stressful.   She is also the product of an individualistic society where everyone is alone and vulnerable to a simple twist of fate.

My kids, even though they are a part of the same individualistic society, have a family that is very collaborative and close-knit.  They can run their thought-processes through the whole family and can get good advice with all the pros and cons.  They have been told to prioritize -

- Health. Eat healthy and nutritious food, sleep well, get innoculated, get their health checkups, keep hydrated, exercise, have friends.  Remove addiction and abuse from your life. 
- Safety -  Physical, health, financial, digital and reputational.  Don't have a weird social media presence.  Be careful of your digital footprint.  Do not consume too much social media. Do not consume porn.  Stay away from news and bystander trauma. 
- Their family and friends - keep in touch, socialize, show up for others, have a plan. 
- Succeed in academics and work.  Most depressed kids get even more depressed when they are not doing well and get stuck in failure. 
- Build up your wealth.  If that means staying with family and leaning in to taking family help or utilizing family resources - so be it.  It also means that you are living a comfortable, but frugal life. Learn to save and invest. Start small but be consistent in safe retirement vehicles like Roth etc.

These are things that your kid has control over.

For my own kid, they know that we will help them in all ways and they have a home with us regardless of joblessness, disease,  divorce, displacement etc.  We will help them to start their adult life - debt-free college, car, apartment, basic furnishing, seed money, adulting skills, wedding, childcare etc.   They have a village in the family and they themselves are good villagers.

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