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[quote=Anonymous]Hello all. I don't know if you can help, but I just have something that is bothering me and keeps playing over and over in my mind. I've been doing lots of Google searches on the topic, but I still feel uneasy. A few nights ago, DH and I got into an argument. Nothing new. And it was on something we have argued about before. But he really started annoying me because he kept asking the same question over and over again, and I kept answering him and telling him that was my answer. Finally I told him i was going to be, grabbed me stuff and went into the room. I could hear him calling my name from the living room, but i didn't answer because i didn't want to yell and risk waking up our daughter, so i just finished what i was doing and then started to make my way in his direction. By that time he was coming down the hallway and he looked very angry. I honestly had never seen him look that mad. He said something about me walking away and then shoved me towards the room. My first reaction was clearly a defensive one because I had never been in that situation before. I pushed him back and told him not to touch me. He shoved me again and this time pushed me down on the bed. After that, all I can remember is him holding me down and me screaming and kicking. I just keep playing back in my mind how loud I screamed. It shocked me because I had never screamed like that before. Eventually he got off of me and I pushed him away. He asked me what was wrong with me and why was I acting like that. I was sitting on the bed shaking. I told him that he has never put his hands on me like that before and held me down. He kept asking me to show him how he was holding me, but I couldn't. I just know I couldn't get up and for those few seconds I felt like i was fighting for my life. He acknowledge the fact that he shoved me. He justified by saying that he was mad I walked away from him and he shoved me into the room so he could talk. He also made a point of saying that if he wanted to hurt me he could and I know it. He eventually did apologize, but it was several minutes later after i kept going back to that incident and expressing how much it scared me. After all of that he had the nerve to try to have make-sex. I was not interested. But my reason for posting is because I don't know if i'm overreacting or thinking about the situation. Should I have left, or had him leave? Could that really just have been an isolated event? Is it my fault? I usually consider myself being smart and not naive, but I will admit that when it comes to him, I have def made some STUPID choices. I've always said that a man has one time to lay his hands on me, but does shoving really fall under that? Sorry for the rambling, just needed to clear my mind. Thanks![/quote]

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