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[quote=Anonymous]Not sure where to post this but I may appreciate health/wellness - minded responses so here goes...

I'm generally sensitive and introverted but as I get older I see myself the way my mom describes herself: as an extroverted introvert. I love going dancing, to the theater, having a fun get-together, but I'm almost always the first one to leave. (Like, I'll enjoy dancing with girlfriends but after about 1 to 1.5 hours I am ready to go home and read a novel in bed.) Another way I know I'm introverted is I enjoy one on one conversations but get really bored in big groups/lots of small talk... Again, maybe fun for a little while then I'd usually peel off to talk with one person or again, leave and enjoy people watching or doing something alone.

Now my husband is WAY an introvert. But he's been really great over the years, agreeing to go with me to 2-3 events a year. I've gotten used to the fact that sometimes he would rather stay home with our kids than go to something fun with me; I thought it's sort of a good balance now, where I don't pressure him and he is happy going with me to a few fun events a year where we are expected to talk with people and/or I'll want to dance with him.

We just went to one a few weeks ago, and I thought of it as maybe the best night together ever. We got dressed up, we were happy, talking, and he left early to put the kids to bed while I stayed to dance.

Today he brought up some really hurtful things - basically saying he was so embarrassed by me, that I was "saying whatever popped out of" my head, like I was drunk and being so weird. We were in an unrelated argument so maybe this was just a way to try to make me feel bad, but now I'm like, "was I weird?!?" I wish I could get an objective opinion! I had two glasses of wine and excitedly, happily talked with our friends... And I'm by far not the most bubbly/talkative/extroverted person so I don't really know what he's talking about. But now I feel self conscious and embarrassed. And I feel terrible. Like, I'm at a birthday party and I want to stay quiet by myself because apparently I'm weird.

I thought "dancing like nobody's watching" is supposed to be a good thing, having fun, not being self-conscious... And now it feels like my husband doesn't like that and is judging me.

Ugh. [/quote]

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