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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m talking about someone who is a lawyer and makes very good money, but:

* [b]never tips or donates[/b]
* almost never eats out, and if she does it’s always the cheapest place or the cheapest thing on the menu
* [b]avoids things like concerts, sporting events, festivals, shows,[/b] spas, etc. because she it’s as a waste of money
* doesn’t spend money on entertainment, events, gifts, Ubers, clothes, etc.
* hates paying for convenience (delivery fees, checked bags, valet, subscriptions, etc.)
* travels a few times a year but always very cheaply (budget airlines/basic hotels/red-eyes/points deals)
* researches everything and buys the cheapest/highest-quality version of literally everything from toothpaste to furniture
* can’t fathom spending $200 on a dress or $2000 on coat

Would men see this as financially responsible and disciplined, or as overly cheap/miserly? Especially in dating, does this kind of mindset help or hurt?[/quote]

I'm like this, except for the bolded. I think they are green flags, but since no one ever asks me on a date, maybe they are red.

The thing is you can't change who you are. My parents were like this, too. And my parents are not struggling in retirement unlike a couple of their friends who are supporting their middle-aged children because they did not pass down frugality as a value.

To the person who said it was the sign of a low-maintenance woman, I totally agree. I am low maintenance. But I'm beginning to see that most men really don't want a low-maintenance woman, regardless of what they say.[/quote]

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