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[quote=Anonymous]Who is paying for the home? Is this a financial burden for your family? How much are we talking about and what’s the differential between what you think she needs (nursing home cost if included, gas to visit, time off work, stuff she buys for your mother, care for kids or pets when she’s with your mother, etc) and what she’s getting? What do you think is fair compensation for your sibling’s services? I would err on the side of generosity, but if the differential is too high, then feel free to reduce it a bit, while keeping a “fee for services”. You’re essentially paying her to be the boots on the ground, and that cost is added to the actual costs of care. This is what my father paid for his two sisters to care for their mother: actual costs plus extra for their services. They lived in east Asia and we could not visit often. [/quote]
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