Reply to Now in our forties, why are many people around me just discovering the mistakes their parents made?

Forum Index » Off-Topic

Reply to "Now in our forties, why are many people around me just discovering the mistakes their parents made? "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Social media created an echo chamber telling people that imperfect parents are all narcissistic abusers and that adult children never have any responsibility to their families. It’s so much easier to cut off your parent and blame them for every single problem you have than it is to accept that life is complicated, unsure, and nuanced.

How to be a supportive friend? Just listen. If they are dealing with genuine abuse, validate their emotions. If they’ve bought into the narc nonsense, listen to a point and say something like “I’m glad you trust me enough to share your feelings.”[/quote]

I want to assure you it is NOT easy to cut off an immediate family member. I would honestly like to cut off my dad, who continues to verbally abuse me as an adult. But I’ve decided, from purely a selfish standpoint, that it’s easier to do the bare minimum with my dad, which avoids a huge and distressing confrontation with lots of family guilt tripping and shaming. Plus doing the bare minimum helps preserve my other family relationships with less conflict and awkwardness, even if it ends up keeping our relationships more surface level.

It is very hard to cut contact with a parent.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics