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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would have my husband start by gently suggesting to FIL that he significantly cut back his babysitting hours.  If FIL is reluctant to do that your husband should approach his sister (and any other siblings using FIL's services) about cutting dad loose.  She's got a very sweet deal; what she chooses to do will say loads about her character.[/quote]

we have been through step 1 - gently suggesting that he cuts back on hours - there are some co-dependencies here.  My FIL feels needed (loved) - my SIL has done this for so long that she does not know how to do things w/o his help any more.  For example, we were on the phone w my FIL a few weeks ago on a Saturday.  My FIL needed to cut it short b/c my SIL needed to go grocery shopping and he was going over there to watch the kids while she went to the store.

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I hate to say it, but unless you have some concerns about your FIL's mental capacity, you have to accept that he's an adult and this is his decision.  If this is what makes him feel loved, then for him the positives outweigh the negatives.  It's not really up to you.  You seem to be really invested in nitpicking every little detail of a situation that doesn't actually involve you at all.  It sounds like you have some resentments toward your SIL/BIL, which may be valid but it also may be getting in the way of your judgment.  You sound determined to "teach them a lesson," but you haven't actually described a situation where anyone is unhappy other than YOU.[/quote]

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