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[quote=Anonymous]My 19-year-old niece lived with her parents until it was time to leave for college, but then decided she didn’t want to go. She stayed home doing very little, so eventually her parents told her she had to move out. She had nowhere else to go, so as her aunt, I let her move in with us. It’s been about a year and a half now, and she still doesn’t work or seem to have any concrete plans, but she is of great help. She does so much for us, grocery shops, cooks, cleans, babysits, drives kids around, and much more.
 
But she recently got engaged to her 24-year-old boyfriend, who is in law school and lives alone. She hasn’t told her parents about the engagement since they haven’t talked since she moved out. My issue now is that she wants him included in everything with our family, constantly around, and involved.  There’s never really any separation. He’s a great guy though. My kids are little so I’m not sure how parents handle this.

At this point, what would you advise? Including involving her fiance in other activities (we’re currently on vacation, and she wants to invite him to our next). Should I encourage her to spend more time at his place, suggest they move in together if they’re engaged anyway, or encourage them to wait until marriage before living together?[/quote]

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